Relationship Problems

Okay, so I've never been that great in the dating department but as one gets older, they want somethings to change. First of all let me give you some background information on my dating situations, at age 16 I was more ready than every to date; however, I was told by both of my parents that I just wasn't ready but that they would give me a shot once I turned 17. Great, or so I thought. At age 17, I started dating my first boyfriend. He was sweet and the perfect gentleman but I knew something had to be wrong. I am an extremely shy person before I get to know people but once I know you, I come around. Well this guy was a lot like myself, we were both shy and didn't know how to cope with the situation. Since the guy was older, I thought he would have a little more experience but boy was I wrong. He hardly ever said a word and believe it or not, I talked more than he did. This relationship was just not working so I ended it without having second thought. I still wonder how things would be now if I would've held on but I honestly think 6 months was ample enough time to be comfortable around your significant other.

Then there was Mr.Cheater himself. I met this guy my sophomore year in high school. I heard stories about this guy since I was in junior high and I promised myself that I would never get involved with a guy like him. Boy was I sadly mistaken again. This guy was best friends with my first cousin, he told him that he liked me and wanted me to give him a chance. I thought long and hard trying to be stern with my decision but I was soon suckered into him when he made a surprise visit to my home on the day of USM's homecoming 2006. He stood in my mother's living room begging her to allow him to date me also promising that he would never hurt me. What a lie! We started talking in late September just as friends and before you knew it we were going on a date. The date went well and I had more fun then I would have ever imagined. The following day, he asked me to be his girlfriend. With a lot of hesitation, I finally agreed. I was happy with my boyfriend and proud as ever. This guy had me on Cloud 99 and no matter what he did, I could see no wrong. He swept me off my feet, soon telling me the three words that my ears longed to hear, "I Love You". I knew we would be together forever, I was truly in love and no one could tell me other wise. Everything was just great, that is until his ex-girlfriends got involved. I was told that he was still "dating" her. I had always felt in my heart that there was a possibility but I refused to believe it. A couple months later, the ex became pregnant, swearing that my boyfriend was the father. Like any other person would, I removed myself from the relationship, never looking back. I never received closure and still to this day wonder, "what if"? I can't believe I was so blind but you live and you learn and I hold this experience close and would never forget the trouble and drama this relationship brought me.

After the cheating relationship, I didn't date again until I graduated from high school. This relationship didn't last long either. I was dating a high school junior who had no freedom what so ever. I can't say I was in love with him but more so infatuated with the fact that i was more experienced than my companion. I felt so much older and more mature but the relationship soon got boring. I had grown accustomed to going out on dates every weekend and spending time with my boyfriend's but this relationship was completely different. We never talked on the phone, went on dates or saw each other for long. The only time I would see him was in my 4Th period Child Development class that we both had together. So, like all my other relationships, I ended this one never looking back. I don't wonder about this one because I was merely attracted to the guy and the phase I was in when I liked him ended quickly. As I look back on my dating problems, I'm thankful that I experienced the things that I did, that way I'll be better prepared for the "Real World". I don't regret any of my experiences, they were all fun while they lasted.